Boundaries in Travel
Because Vacation Shouldn’t Mean Mom Does Everything in a Different Zip Code
Family travel is that sweet combo of excitement, bonding, stress, delays and all kinds of adventures (both good and bad). We envision the trip in our head—beautiful scenery, hopeful anticipation, and everyone happily cooperating. But then… real life shows up.
You’re overstimulated and running on adrenaline, but somehow everyone still looks to you when anyone needs anything—from socks to referring sibling rivalries.
So how do we keep travel joyful without needing a vacation from our vacation? Boundaries. Glorious, sanity-saving boundaries.
But First—Why Boundaries Matter (Even on a Beach in Mexico)
According to the experts at The Gottman Institute, boundaries aren’t about keeping people out—they’re about creating a space where connection and respect can thrive. One of their guiding principles is that “boundaries are not separation—they're respect.”
Let’s think about how it’s especially true on family trips, when everyone’s together 24/7 and the potential for overload is high. Boundaries help everyone get their needs met without stepping all over someone else’s.
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1. Set Expectations Before Takeoff
Before you even zip a suitcase, have a quick family chat:
What’s the daily rhythm? Are you going 90 to nothing all day, sitting around relaxing, or a mixture of both?
Where are there "quiet time" blocks? Even a few minutes at night or first thing in the morning is a must.
Who’s choosing what to do (and when)? Having a plan but being willing to adapt to travel hiccups can be a key to happiness while away from home.
Even little ones can help co-create boundaries that keep everyone from spiraling. (Also, snacks. Can you tell we like snacks?)
Window view of the sunrise at takeoff
2. Don’t Plan Every Minute
Yes, it’s tempting to be the Pinterest parent who maps out a minute-by-minute itinerary. But here’s the thing: Sometimes you just have to roll with it.
Set a boundary with yourself:
Create a schedule you think is actually reasonable (and you want to follow).
Leave room for downtime, weird side adventures, or naps that turn into naps-for-everyone.
Accept that there’s a good chance you will need to pivot your plans at some point.
Kids enjoying the window in our stateroom while sailing away
3. You’re Allowed to Have Needs (Even on Family Trips)
Repeat after me: “I am not the entertainment committee, snack coordinator, and emotional sponge for this entire family.”
If you need:
✅ 30 minutes alone
✅ A slower morning
✅ Someone else to deal with the towels
...say so! You matter on this trip too.
And as The Gottman Institute emphasizes in their research, when we clearly express our needs and set loving limits, we’re actually strengthening emotional bonds—not breaking them.
Me enjoying yoga on the beach of Port Aransas, TX
4. Boundaries Teach Our Kids Too
When kids see us honoring our own boundaries, they learn:
Self-respect
Emotional regulation
How to ask for what they need
Bonus: Fewer meltdowns, more self-awareness—and a higher chance someone else in the family will eventually pack their own toothbrush.
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Final Boarding Call
Family travel doesn’t have to mean sacrificing your sanity for everyone else’s fun. Boundaries protect the joy in your trip. They help your whole crew move from chaos to connection (and maybe even back to calm).
So, this summer, pack your bags—but don’t forget to pack some clear, respectful boundaries too.
Your future self will thank you… probably while sipping coffee alone for 10 uninterrupted minutes.
To learn more about boundaries in everyday life, checkout the Masterclass I have for moms here!
Until next time, enjoy the journey!
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