The Reverse Bucket List: Let Your Kids Tell You What NOT to Do This Summer
Amazing splash pad with shade, but something else works better for our family
Beginning in April, I find myself filled with renewed excitement for the upcoming summer. This will be the summer we do All The Things. I make a list and ask for the kids input for fun activities, but things don’t always go according to plan.
So this year, we are going to try something different. A reverse bucket list. This is a list of things you’re intentionally NOT doing. It’s a playful (and slightly rebellious) twist that gives your kids permission to be honest and you permission to simplify.
I allowed each kid to create their own list, and what happened was interesting. One kid used a blank piece of paper and wrote a few ideas. Another used a template I made, filled in all the lines, and even added artwork for each “nope” and “what we’ll do instead” activities.
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Why It Works (Even if It Sounds Backward)
Instead of focusing on all the stuff we should be doing (because Pinterest said so), we’re flipping the script.
Letting the kids say ‘no’ gave me insight into what actually matters to them—and what just stresses us all out. They felt heard and empowered.
Saying ‘no’ in advance to the stuff that drains us created space for the things that delights us. So in the moment we can all create mindful choices.
Also: Fewer meltdowns. From them and me. The boundaries have been set well in advance.
Our Family’s 'Nope List' Includes:
❌ Long car rides to boring places
❌ Unkind pranks that create arguments
❌ Visits to the splash pad more geared towards toddlers
❌ Loud noises that make us cover our ears
Instead, we’re focusing more on:
✅ Shorter rides to closer places like a water park
✅ Funny jokes that we can all enjoy
✅ Visits to the pool where we can cool off with more space
✅ Use inside voices while talking, or headphones to watch tablets
What You Can Also Ask Yourself:
What do I feel pressured to include in summer plans that I don’t actually enjoy?
What activities feel draining instead of joyful?
What am I saying yes to out of guilt — and how can I rewrite that script?
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Your summer doesn’t have to be magical. It just has to be manageable.
And sometimes, crossing things off the list is the most freeing thing of all.
Until next time, enjoy the journey!
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